Monday, May 25, 2009

Yes they Can


“Twenty Wishes” by Debbie Macomber

Acclaimed fiction author Debbie Macomber captures the lives of a group of dynamic women whose friendship is the result of a common bond they share: They had been recently widowed. Their marriages for the most part were very different from the perfect pictures seen by the outside world. For most of them their husbands had been unfaithful; one as a matter of habit; another had put that kind of behavior behind him and his marriage was on the mend when tragedy struck; and in Anne Marie Roche's case, well, it was complicated.

Anne Marie is the book's main character and owner of Blossom Street Books in Seattle. She was married for a decade to Robert, a divorced father of two. At the time they met he had made it clear to her that he did not want anymore kids. She had agreed. As time went on though, Anne Marie wanted a child so badly but Robert wouldn't budge. An ill-timed ultimatum from her leads to a separation. Just when they are trying to reconcile, he dies of a sudden heart attack. As if that is not enough tragedy for one person, after his death Anne Marie learns that Robert cheated on her with his assistant who is now pregnant, possibly, with his child.

On Valentine's Day, Anne Marie organizes a party just for the ladies to celebrate their friendship. They decide to each come up with 20 wishes that might help bring some happiness back into their lives and ease the pain of their grief. Anne Marie has a hard time coming up with anything but starts with: Find one good thing about life. Her list also includes volunteer – become a lunch buddy, sing again and travel to Paris with someone I love. Volunteering as a lunch buddy leads Anne Marie to Ellen, an eight-year old girl, who comes to live with Anne Marie when her grandmother falls ill. Their lives become far more intertwined than either of them would have anticipated.

“Twenty Wishes” also follows the stories of the other women. Lillie Higgins is in her sixties. She is the one whose husband was unfaithful their entire marriage. Her wish to have a red sports car leads her to purchase a red BMW convertible on a whim. She meets Hector Silva, a service manager at the car dealership where she bought her car. One thing leads to another and they fall in love. The two of them couldn't be more different. She, white, upper class, rich, privileged. He, Hispanic, working class, accomplished, proud.

Her daughter Barbie, (both their husbands died on the same plane crash) whose wish to once again find the kind of love she shared with her husband leads her to meet moody, brash, sometimes rude, hunky, paraplegic, architect, Mark Bassett, at a move theater. Their relationship is rocky to begin with. Mark's first wife left him after the accident that cost him his legs and he subsequently avoided relationships with women. But he comes around when Barbie learns how to get through his outer shell to his inner softer side.

Anne Marie's wishes also come true. She finds love again. A different kind of love in Ellen, whom she adopts upon the death of Ellen's grandmother. They plan to go to Paris together. She regains her voice and is able to sing again. She even makes number 11 on her list: Dance in the rain in my bare feet. This happened at her step-daughter's wedding reception.

In the end “Twenty Wishes” is about the lesson the ladies learn which we all can learn: Life's possibilities are endless once we open ourselves up to be blessed. While this book may be a work of fiction, true accounts abound of the power of making lists – be they wishes, goals or plans. There is something about how we are wired that once we physically write down a list, we subconsciously start working toward it. Somewhere along the line Providence sets in and the magic starts to happen. This has been my personal experience. It was little Ellen in the book, paraphrasing Anne Marie, who said , “your heart has to let your head know what it wants.” To anyone who wonders whether wishes can come true, I submit to you, yes they can.

Monday, May 4, 2009

Book Binges, Love and Lust


“Literacy and Longing in L.A” By Jennifer Kaufman and Karen Mack

I've had this book for more than a year and I have no idea why I never got around to reading it. Truth be told, it falls into that category of books I call frivolous, which I have not read in years. At least that's what I thought, but I was in for a surprise. When you are on the road and have decided to wander and travel for the foreseeable future like I am currently doing, when you are in a strange land where you've never been and the language you hear in chatter around you is strange, a book like this one with a funny and witty take on life's dilemmas is a welcome relief no matter how much you are enjoying your new environment.

You can't help but identify and empathize with Dora, the book's main character. “Literacy and Longing in L.A.” is written in the first person, with Dora as the narrator. She is a former reporter in her thirties, with one divorce behind her and separated from her current husband. She deals with her frequent bouts of depression by going on book binges. This would involve long wine-induced reading sessions in the bathtub until the water gets cold. At these times Dora tunes out the world around her, turns off her phone and switches on the answering machine. She only answers when her concerned sister, Virginia, is worried sick about her, or Palmer, her soon-to-be ex husband, tries to reach her on Virginia's urging.

She seeks diversion with her new Man Candy – a literary know-it-all, aspiring playwright, and employee in her neighborhood bookstore. But like all that glitters and is not necessarily gold, this guy is all fleeting and all fickle. When it comes time to make the real choices that define a man, he fails miserably. Dora soon learns that even mind-blowing sex combined with similar passions and literary prowess do not a long-lasting relationship make.

The book is laden with a plethora of literary references, heaven for any book lover. Mentions of Twain, Hemingway, Tolstoy, Dickens, Albom, Woolf, Eliot, Halberstam, and their works (only a few examples), all a clear indication of the predilection of author duo, Jennifer Kaufman, a former journalist and Karen Mack, a former lawyer.

Authors, Karen Mack and Jennifer Kaufman

But “Literacy and Longing in L.A. is not just about one woman's mid thirties existential and identity crises. It is about the choices we make that end up defining the rest of our lives. Who we choose to love and be with. How we choose to spend our time. How much to sacrifice for those we call family. What kind of work we choose to do and how it does or does not define us. Like the summary on the book cover says, Dora has “to choose between two irresistible men. Between idleness and work. And most of all between the joy of well-chosen words and the untidiness of real people and real life.”

After a year of being afloat and living on her dwindling trust fund (a gift from her dad, which she sees as compensation for his absence from her childhood), Dora gets it together. This is triggered by a heart-to-heart talk with her recovering alcoholic mother who nudges her not to let her dysfunctional childhood determine the outcome of her adult relationships. Great performances as a freelancer on assignments no one else wants leads her to getting her job back at the L.A. Times. She breaks up with Man Candy and she and Palmer decide to give their marriage another try. After all you are better off with the man you love and who loves you, the man you know and who knows you. So Dora eventually gets what she wants: fulfilling work and a second chance with the love of her life. It always comes around in the end for those patient and resilient enough to go through life's rings of fire to get to the core of contentment. If only we could all see the end from the beginning.